Curse

sino-soviet · Sep 24, 2005, 01:32 AM // 01:32

Well I just moved to the USA recently from Israel. Due to many conflicts in my native country, I had never, I repeat never, had a girlfriend or even had so much as a crush on anyone. Well, in one of my classes, I sit next to this Indian girl. I pretty much just fell for her instantly. She's pretty, charming and more than I could ever ask for. But it seems like a total lack of confidence around females just stops me from making a move. I am totally horrified at the thought of even carrying a conversation, partly from lack of experience. Can anyone give me any pointers? I would tend to not ask this on a forum, but many people here have girlfriends, social lives, and many are even married.

Serps · Sep 24, 2005, 01:34 AM // 01:34

Treat her like a friend until you're no longer tongue-tied. That way, you won't screw up.

Link Ironhammer · Sep 24, 2005, 01:35 AM // 01:35

ok I haven't had a girlfriend but i have asked many girls out... do you talk to her?

chris_nin00 · Sep 24, 2005, 01:36 AM // 01:36

You don't need pointers!!! When the time comes you'll get a girl. I'm 100% sure.

Well I'm only 15 so my liability is zip.

NEXT!!!!!

EchoSex · Sep 24, 2005, 01:46 AM // 01:46

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Originally Posted by sino-soviet

Well I just moved to the USA recently from Israel. Due to many conflicts in my native country, I had never, I repeat never, had a girlfriend or even had so much as a crush on anyone. Well, in one of my classes, I sit next to this Indian girl. I pretty much just fell for her instantly. She's pretty, charming and more than I could ever ask for. But it seems like a total lack of confidence around females just stops me from making a move. I am totally horrified at the thought of even carrying a conversation, partly from lack of experience. Can anyone give me any pointers? I would tend to not ask this on a forum, but many people here have girlfriends, social lives, and many are even married.

I'll tell you what my grandfather told me when I was a kid - "Deoderant and confidance." Just say "Wanna hang out?" Boom. You're done. Now just let what happens, happen.

Autumn_Leaf · Sep 24, 2005, 01:50 AM // 01:50

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Originally Posted by EchoSex

I'll tell you what my grandfather told me when I was a kid - "Deoderant and confidance." Just say "Wanna hang out?" Boom. You're done. Now just let what happens, happen.

sounds like a smart grandfather. take the advice. Get it over with, or else you'll have anx-si-ity (can't spell) every day.

Lasareth · Sep 24, 2005, 01:53 AM // 01:53

Find out what type of person she is and appeal to her interests. Maybe adopt a few as your own too

There's nothing like sharing the enjoyment of a good game (the sports kind

) or movie.

EchoSex · Sep 24, 2005, 01:54 AM // 01:54

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Originally Posted by Autumn_Leaf

sounds like a smart grandfather. take the advice. Get it over with, or else you'll have anx-si-ity (can't spell) every day.

And he qoutes with even better advice. Autumn is right - you gotta do what you gotta do, or you'll live in regret.

Link Ironhammer · Sep 24, 2005, 01:54 AM // 01:54

Get to know her then pop the question that simple

Nick The Nicker · Sep 24, 2005, 02:00 AM // 02:00

just relax when u are talking to her dont really think about what "im a gonna do next" and stuff because then you will mess up so just calm down and relax
and have some confidance

good luck and i hope this helps you out.

Manderlock · Sep 24, 2005, 02:04 AM // 02:04

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Originally Posted by Serps

Treat her like a friend until you're no longer tongue-tied. That way, you won't screw up.

Bad idea, once you become a friend its 500x harder get her as your girl.

Night Daftshadow · Sep 24, 2005, 02:10 AM // 02:10

just keep talking to her until your comfortable enough to finally make your move. just dont wait too long. charm her, make her laugh, make her smile, make her feel happy when your around her. sooner or later she'll fall for you. it always works! good luck bro.

Storm Crow · Sep 24, 2005, 02:12 AM // 02:12

wow

guys know absolutely NOTHING I repeat, NOTHING about women

-getting to know her FIRST is a good idea, see if youre into the same stuff
-if she agrees to hang out with you, go to one of HER favorite places, not yours (this is only so because women like to make the decisions

)
-talk about stuff you both know, such as school, other friends, etc.etc.
-depending on the type of girl she is, she will either like romantics, playfuls, or bad boys (make sure you evaluate her and try to catch on to her type)
-after a while, when you are no longer having trouble talking to her, ask her for a date, you never know with wonems additudes, so if she says no, dont get all downhearted

and if she says yes, then youve got a good thing goin for you Sino

Night Daftshadow · Sep 24, 2005, 02:17 AM // 02:17

now you know why it's a pain in the ass to get a girl, but it's totally worth it. play your cards right and you'll win her over.

Manderlock · Sep 24, 2005, 02:20 AM // 02:20

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Originally Posted by Storm Crow

wow

guys know absolutely NOTHING I repeat, NOTHING about women

-getting to know her FIRST is a good idea, see if youre into the same stuff
-if she agrees to hang out with you, go to one of HER favorite places, not yours (this is only so because women like to make the decisions

)
-talk about stuff you both know, such as school, other friends, etc.etc.
-depending on the type of girl she is, she will either like romantics, playfuls, or bad boys (make sure you evaluate her and try to catch on to her type)
-after a while, when you are no longer having trouble talking to her, ask her for a date, you never know with wonems additudes, so if she says no, dont get all downhearted

and if she says yes, then youve got a good thing goin for you Sino

Im sorry been there done that, bought the t-shirt and it sucked. If you become a "friend" thats what they think of you as. Getting her to think of you as a "Boy-friend" is 500x harder.

Storm Crow · Sep 24, 2005, 02:22 AM // 02:22

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Originally Posted by Manderlock

Im sorry been there done that, bought the t-shirt and it sucked. If you become a "friend" thats what they think of you as. Getting her to think of you as a "Boy-friend" is 500x harder.

thats what you think

Link Ironhammer · Sep 24, 2005, 02:27 AM // 02:27

ugh get to know her that simple

Manderlock · Sep 24, 2005, 02:29 AM // 02:29

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Originally Posted by Storm Crow

thats what you think

Its not a mer thought, thats what happends. Its better to go strait up, talk to them abit, then ask if they want to come see your apartment. Dont become a "friend" thats the first step of never going out with them.

Storm Crow · Sep 24, 2005, 02:33 AM // 02:33

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Originally Posted by Manderlock

Its not a mer thought, thats what happends. Its better to go strait up, talk to them abit, then ask if they want to come see your apartment. Dont become a "friend" thats the first step of never going out with them.

Youve obviously had bad experiences. Most women arent like that.

EchoSex · Sep 24, 2005, 02:39 AM // 02:39

To qoute good ol' Johnny Cash, just don't let things bring you down too much if something goes wrong, otherwise you'll be feeling unknown and all alone - flesh 'n' bone by the telephone.